Today’s post is written by Kerry Round; it features some useful tips that are very apt for Valentine’s Day which is rapidly approaching us. If you have a date coming up that you’re a little nervous for and you’re worrying about what to wear or whether it will be awkward, these tips will really help to put you at ease. Enjoy!
It can often be quite nerve-wracking to wait for a date, especially if you have butterflies in your stomach about the person you’re meeting. No matter how old and wizened we might feel, it only takes one person to take your fancy for those schoolyard feelings to come back once more, and we love it every single time. Love always finds a way. But of course, we don’t want to get ahead of ourselves. This is merely the first date, a time to enjoy and gauge if the person is right for us as much as we want to impress them. A first date is best achieved when low-key, perhaps with some comfortable action like bowling or simply heading for a nice walk around the town during the twilight.
Preparing for another date can be fun if you let it. It can help your natural confidence shine through later, and give you the tools to enjoy yourself and form a truly wonderful memory. And, if the date goes poorly, at least your personal preparations will have let you had fun in whatever activity you took part in, or can come away with a love for yourself.
It can feel extremely tempting to dress up to the nines when you have a date planned. Of course, if there’s one time you want to look the most magnetic, it’s probably before a date with someone you like. But sometimes, it can feel a little overblown if you head there and your date is simply dressed relatively normally, perhaps smart casually. Plus, it can come across that you’re much keener on them than you might be. You have to bring a sense of mystery with you after all. However, we would never presume to tell you what to dress. If this makes you feel like the most confident you, you should absolutely rock the chosen outfit you already have in your heart and mind.
Natural clothing can often be the best way to dress if you’re unsure. Just a simple winter coat with a comfortable shirt and jeans, or a summer dress can help you emphasize the colors you like. Most importantly, feel comfortable with the person you’re heading on a date with. If they suggest they have planned something mysterious for the both of you, simply ask what to wear. You don’t want them to show up in a tux while you’re wearing a simple, comfortable dress. But whatever helps you feel natural and comfortable in your skin is important. Leave the show stopping to the accessories you decide on. Remember the golden rule – dressing for yourself is much more important than dressing for them.
Be prepared to have fun. Lessen the drama or sense of obligation that often surrounds any date you might head on. You might decide to go bowling, or another form of ‘action’ date that puts you both in a vulnerable position in front of each other, as this is the best way to encourage laughter and none of the stuffy formality that dinner dates provide. With something fun in mind, you’ll be willing to jump into that date with more energy and comfort than you might have otherwise.
Be Prepared And Active
Heading to the gym in the day beforehand can help you work out some of your stress beforehand, and also help you feel more confident in yourself. There’s something naturally restorative and comfortable about how exercise can make you feel, especially when it’s over and done with. Working out all your morning anxiety can help you come into the date with energy, cool relaxed and composed. Not only that, but it can help you feel more relaxed in the date, more down to Earth, and more able to express yourself correctly. In other words, it helps you bring your best self to the table, for you as much as them.
It’s important to prepare for the date beforehand of course, but the little things often help. Filling out your clutch bag with your essentials, a little extra money in case the night takes you somewhere you weren’t expecting, and telling at least two of your friends who you’re going with and where can be important. You can delay your period with the use of tablets to help you feel the most hygienic, and moisturizing with cocoa butter beforehand or bringing lip balm can help your entire body exude that wonderful glow you might desire. Also, remember the mindset to have fun! This isn’t an obligation, but something you should want to do because it’s fun and you like the person. If at any reason this stops being true, don’t be afraid to leave.
With these tips, feeling your best before a date is sure to translate to a wonderful time.